Behavior can be a physical thing such as a morning routine and it can be non-physical such as replaying negative thoughts all day long. A few behaviors are instinctive and built in while the rest are learned through meeting needs. What this means is that our behaviors are motivated by our needs and wants. Therefore we can adjust our behavior to have our needs met.
Yet when we have negative behaviors and we want to change them, we find it isn’t always so easy because these are complex learned behaviors that we exhibit.
There are two types of motivation – the motivation-to-approach something and the motivation-to-avoid something. When we desire something, we are motivated to approach it therefore receiving positive reinforcement or feedback. When we avoid something, we are motivated to move away from it or we will receive negative reinforcement or feedback.
Let’s look at those things we approach or avoid. The things maybe triggered...
Have you ever wondered why you hold onto emotional and physical pain longer than needed? There is a belief that we create and maintain problems to give us a sense of identity – to define who we are – to give us purpose.
Do you know of anyone who creates problems and then swoops in to save the day? Or someone who creates problems to then play the role of victim for sympathy and attention?
These behaviors, whether in ourselves or around us are due to the need to replay our past mistakes like a broken record in our minds which in turn builds feelings of shame and regret. Carrying these burdens dictates the actions we take in the now. In addition, we hold onto worry and frustration about the future creating unnecessary stress. Stress has been linked to numerous health issues and the majority of us live with this fabricated stress every day treating is as our normal state.
We all know that if we put a little energy to something we get a...
The word FIREWORK can be negative or positive depending on what you do with your inner content.
Do you outburst of anger or other negative emotion? Or do you create beautiful lights, celebrate your life, and shine your unique inner spark on the world?
G-d gifted you with a free will, so turn your resentment into compassion. Burn away contamination and let the bitterness be gone. Distance yourself from negativity as if you were evacuated from boiling fire. Negative attitude won’t solve the problem or turn off the fire, but self-controlling and focusing on recovery will!
Your experience is stored in your mind and soul. Heal your past wounds and learn from your experience. Otherwise the fire in your soul blisters you up. Turn your fire and experience from fiery or failure to enlightenment or feedback. Every day consider your life in new light.
Free yourself of unwarranted fear. Only fear G-d, so you fire out your inner divine spark and do good deeds. Reclaim freedom...
Attitude is the one thing you have complete control of and yet you may unknowingly choose a negative attitude. If we understood the power of our own attitude in our lives, most of us would change it immediately.
Attitude is created by your thoughts, feelings and actions. Your mind controls feelings and decides whether these feelings will be positive or negative through your thoughts. Your body then follows these thoughts through actions and behaviors.
This attitude is expressed based on how we internalize ideas. Our mind and body move into a new vibration of conscious awareness known as feelings. These feelings are then displayed through actions and behaviors that produce the results in our lives.
Attitude [Thoughts + Feelings + Actions] = Results
Imagine feeding your minds with positive thoughts and flow through the process. You will end with positive results. Feeding your minds with negative thoughts will end with negative results....
The 80/20 rule came from an Italian economist, Vilfredo Pareto, who stated that 80% of the Italian income was earned by 20% of the Italian population.
What this means is that 80% of your outcomes come from 20% of your inputs. In other words, 20% of your activities equate to 80% of your happiness. Instead of focusing only on income, let’s focus on your overall well-being or happiness factor.
So how can you use the 80/20 rule to maximize your outputs? Since each of us is good at few things, focus on what you are good at – those few things. That will maximize your efficient self and allow you to improve your skills on what you are good at and what you love to do.
Malcolm Gladwell speaks of how to become an expert. If you spread yourself across the board, trying to master everything, you are a master of none, and your efficiency rate decreases.
Take a moment and consider what you love and what you are really good at and then list out those things that...
How to Relieve your Anxiety?!
I remember when I was first pregnant with my first daughter and I was so afraid from the labor, what if something will get wrong? What if it will hurt terribly? What if….? What if…..?
Have you ever been so afraid that you decided not to go through with it? You avoiding it or keep procrastinating it?
How many people never want to get married, never want to be pregnant, never want something out of fear? Fear that they will have to take care of someone else, fear that their marriage will take away freedom of their life.
I was freaking out when I had little babies who were so dependent on me.
I was afraid to get married. What if we won’t have enough money? The what if…. Again.
Fear or anxiety is based most of the time on subjective assumptions. Assuming the worst, assuming what if we lose control, what if we can’t handle it, what if we don’t deserve it? What if we aren’t worthy? What if no one will support us?...
Mrs. Corey invited me to be interviewed on her radio show and podcast.
I said, "Sure, I would love that".
I asked, "What is this interview about?"
She replied, "You'll see; we'll just talk".
I said, "Sure". I always loved spontaneity.
Today was the interview, and I had so much fun! As we entered the radio station, one of the staff was sitting in the recording room behind a big glass room. It was really cool, just like you see in the movies.
Mrs.Corey started with talking about different blockages that hold people back. She shared her own blockage too. Then she asked me for my thoughts and advises about it. The conversation was so fascinating that she interviewed me for the next broadcast and the one after that.
When it comes out on the air, I will be able to share it with you.
Meanwhile, here are some helpful tips for you on how to get un-stuck:
1) When you feel trapped...
Do you Control your THOUGHTS or do they Control you? Do you feel you are in a loop?
Did you know that your thoughts affect your body? Your thoughts send electrical signals to your brain and they affect every cell in your body.
Dr. Bruce Lipton researched this affect and he found out that “a person’s perception, not genetic programming, is what spurs all action in the body. It’s actually our beliefs that select our genes that select our behavior. Your perception of any given thing, at any given moment, can influence the brain chemistry, which, in turn, affects the environment where your cells reside and controls their fate. In other words, your thoughts and perceptions have a direct and overwhelmingly significant effect on cells.”
To simplify it, what Dr. Lipton found out in his research is that: our perceptions (thoughts, beliefs, awareness) affect our brain chemistry which affect our cells.
Dr. Lipton says “Inappropriate signals (thoughts) create...
So many of us are searching for a meaning, for inner peace, for happiness.
So many of us are searching for our soul.
To lead a meaningful life, we must connect to the energy within.
This energy is a powerful force, the force which defines life.
It manifests the very reason for our existence, it’s the flame of God seeking to reach out, its our inner spark longing to be discovered.
Without experiencing the soul, without connecting to our compass, there can be no personal growth. Only our soul has the power to lift us above and beyond.
Have a “DEEP SEE”
Do we have a choice? Do we have a free choice?
In my opinion it takes courage/bravery to choose morally despite the challenges.
Some people are hero and forever legacy. They even risked their lives for the sake of saving others.
As Viktor Frankl said: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
“Freedom is in danger of degenerating into mere arbitrariness unless it is lived in terms of responsibleness.”
Since responsibility is how you chose to respond, (you chose your attitude):
So, yes you have a free choice!
So, yes chose responsibly!